好生活。。。。
有一位女同事向我诉苦,说她最近因为业务太忙,所以必须把工作带回家,结果她的先生开始埋怨,说她在家里也离不开电脑,日夜工作,连孩子也觉得妈妈的声音也减少了!她很无奈地说,为了要让孩子和家人过好生活,所以得挣多点钱,她再辛苦也值得。
我听了很感动,但也发现这是现今社会很普遍的一种现象,家庭的关系和互动,几乎都跟金钱和物质挂钩,生活的价值观,无不在金钱、时间和家庭之间摇晃,轻重之分已经难以定夺和衡量。 跟着时代巨轮不断地向前迈进,加上爱“比较”的心态,心里的指南针,越来越迷失方向。
每次开车载同事出门用餐,我的车便会成为他们的话题,因为大家都换了外国车,只有我还在开着国产车,接着便是我的手机和手表等等,男同事平时爱谈产业投资,女同事却围绕在名牌手提袋和时装,我顿时成了 “爱比较文化” 的牺牲品,只好提醒自己,别去抬高别人的威风,而低毁了自己的士气,在质问好与不好的同时,其实还有更适合自己的定位。
上个周末和友人去公园运动,无意中看到一家友族朋友,父母和六个小孩排排坐在公园的楼梯上,我经过时,八张长得很相似的脸孔,同时朝我望过来,一看就知道是一家人,我跟他们微笑的打招呼后,吸引我的是他们每人手上都捧着一包椰浆饭,另一只手则捏着饭,往嘴里送,全家大小都吃得不亦乐乎!
回过头,我突然联想起公司那位女同事的对白,“好生活” 的定义是不是以进出豪华餐厅的次数,抑或名牌的数量来衡量呢?很多时候我们都渴望和追求很多东西,但最后却被很多东西拥有,因为我们都成了奴隶,失去了时间、亲情、健康和友情。
原来,都是“万物唯心造”的魔术,可以用最简单的方法,换取最轻安幸福的心情。
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此博文刊登于星洲日报 《星云》 版, 10/Feb/2010,我的开年大红包!
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14 条评论:
舉雙手支持你,生活物質不用要求太多,要得越多,心就越累。我駕小小Kancil,省油容易泊車,很自在。
我們都很在意别人怎样看自己
郤忘了停下脚步看看自己
为了生活为了钱, 没办法咯。
幸福也可以从一包nasi lemak里舀得到的....
Totally agree with your observation! Thanks for sharing this wisdoms!! :>
wish you have a great 2010! :P........ Based on your article it will all start with our "heart" or focus :>>
What a wonderfull thought !!!
静思语记载“人之所以虚伪,只因贪欲心起。若能弃除贪欲烦恼,心无杂念,无欲无为,才能得到真“善”和快乐”
人生最大的病贪欲~“贪财,贪色,贪名,贪食,贪睡”
当你放下“贪”才能得到真真的快乐!
我是货真价实的过来人!其实满足现有只在于你的一念间!
一包nasi lemak也能有此感触!!看来你快到达“不食人间烟火的境界了”哈哈!!
不食人间烟火,但食 nasi lemak, 哈哈。。。。。
Many a time, nasi lemak takes up a part of my meals. I really feel blissful for having nasi lemak. It’s simple & cheap. Going to high class restaurant & branded clothing are not my cup of tea, If you want to treat a meal of nasi lemak in a classic restaurant, I accept your kindness. I look forward to this day to come.
哇佬耶,Nasi Lemak 也能生出智慧。
有个朋友告诉我,他的朋友的儿子只能在他的
父亲的车窗外见面。大多数是老爸电话叫孩子
从高级公寓下来,老爸坐在司机嘉的车内,
较下车窗,告诉孩子说刚买了新的电玩给他,
孩子还来不及显露高兴的样子,老爸就走人了。
读了你的NASI LEMAK,很有味道。
也谢谢你没把我的照片刊登出来。
新年这么多活动,何妨写篇聚餐的,登于报端,
让人人能回味。
xin nian
大家都吃多了,不妨拿一片非洲叶,冲水隔夜喝,
有轻泄减肥作用。
You are right. I have such feeling when my daughter told me on her needs.
She studied at Than Siang for two months only- Jan and Feb. Later start complaint why I keep working late and can only pick her up ard evening...then.....she start 'help' me looking for excuses and suggestions that can let me can come to fetch her early ard lunch hour. After one month, she didn't want go back home and 7days/week stay at baby sitter house.
Now, I have transferred her study at LS's kindergarden. She likes there but I feel I am not a good mum because let baby sitter looking at her and I just keep working...
My hubby also complaint I don't cook dinner for him for so long time .... I know it is very dangerous let him 'eat outside' hehe.....
Children just need us alway be around them. They don't know what is the best and what is the worst. So, I am trying to go home on time, cook for my hubby and visit my children more frequently.
Children are a good teacher.
是的,孩子的童年是很短暂的,转眼就长大了,不要错过跟她们共度童年的时光,多少金钱都买不回!!
很喜欢最后一句 Children are a good teacher. :-)
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